**this is an excerpt from my book Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life**

“Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.” Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott

One of the tools that was pivotal in helping me manifest and manage all my relationships since 1998 was Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott’s book, If Love is a Game, These are the Rules. It was the first time I really understood the concept that how others treated me was a direct result of how I treated myself. When I could stand back and be objective about my behavior toward myself and what messages that sent out to others, I realized that the relationship I had to focus on most to get what I wanted was with myself. If I was not willing to treat myself like a queen, then how could I expect someone else to?

Your turn.

How do you treat yourself? When you wake up in the morning, what do you say to yourself? Do you compliment or criticize your body? Do you try on clothes, pinpointing all of the negative things you can, secretly wishing you could have someone else’s body?

If you do, you are not alone. This common practice of most women is the exact behavior that drives the fitness and weight loss industry—and I hate it. We focus on perfect bodies and how can I spot reduce this area so I will like myself, or so someone else will find me attractive and valuable? The underlying emotion here is fear. Many spiritual teachers of mine over the years have all agreed that our actions are motivated consciously or subconsciously by either love or fear.

Fear is defined as a feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by present or imminent danger and a feeling of disquiet or apprehension. Fear can be a good tool when you think your life is in danger, but most people live in this emotion all day long with no such threat. Fear is uncomfortable to be in and around. Fear can also be defined as lack of trust.

Love is defined as a deep, tender feeling of affection and care toward a person, such as that arising from kinship or a sense of oneness, and a person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction. Love feels good, and we seek it all the time. We hold others as objects of our attention to give love to, and we want to receive love from others.

Which of these is activated more in your life when you deal with your body? Is it mostly love or fear?

How many times in your relationship life do you attract people who do the same thing or change the way they treat you as the relationship progresses? They start off complimentary and wonderful in the first two or three months, then the compliments stop coming because you either did not receive them or you argued about them.

You trained them how to treat you.

How often do you deflect a compliment? Someone tells you that you look pretty, and you say, “Oh no, I just rolled out of bed, and I am having a bad hair day.” This blocks a compliment.

Many women do it because they have a hard time receiving. You are not allowing yourself to receive the gift because your inner critic does not believe what the other person says. You want to feel attractive, then someone gives you a compliment, and you reject it. Can you see what message you are sending to that person? Why would anyone compliment you again?

Take out a sheet of paper and answer these questions to see what your body blueprint says about you based on every area of fitness and self-care, including exercise, diet, rest, play, and self-talk. We will then work on creating a new body blueprint that can yield more desirable responses.

1. List all the thoughts you can remember you had today, from the time you woke up to now, about how you look or any judgments on your character. For example, if you made a mistake, did you quickly internalize with a thought like “I am so stupid,” or did you think “Oh well, glad I learned that now?” List all of your thoughts in a single column.
2. Underneath the last thought, write a list all the actions you did today, from taking a shower to eating breakfast. Also include things you would have like to have done or should have done and didn’t. For example, you did not take your supplements today.

You should have one long vertical row that contains all the thoughts you were aware of today and all the actions you have accomplished so far. Now make another column to the right of the first one and answer these questions.

1. Next to the thoughts you had, write down if they were positive comments or negative. If you criticized yourself, that is negative. If you brushed your teeth, that is positive.
2. Next to the actions, write down a brief reason for doing that action and whether it came from love or fear. For example, if you wrote down ‘had a cup of coffee, went to work and skipped breakfast,’ do you think skipping breakfast was an act of love or disregard? You know the body needs fuel, so if the reason you skipped breakfast was because you were too busy, you put work before yourself, which sends the message that you are not as important as your work. Keep going through your list and be honest with yourself about the messages you are sending.

What Does Your Body Blueprint Say?

Answer the questions below and identify the message you are sending with each of your answers.

1. Exercise: How do you take care of your body? Do you exercise regularly? What kind of exercises do you do and why?
2. Diet: What foods do you consume on a regular basis? Are they high energy, clean foods that provide vitamins and nutrients for your body? Are they processed, chemically created foods that contain large amounts of fat and sugar with no nutritional value? Do you consume the amount of water your body needs to function optimally every day? Do you ingest toxins and drugs?
3. Rest: Do you sleep at least seven to eight hours a day? Do you unwind before going to bed? Do you take breaks during the day to relax and recharge your mind and body?
4. Play: Do you have fun on a weekly basis? Do you laugh often? Do you feel joy and do things you love every week?
5. Self-talk: How do you treat yourself with the words you use in your mind? If you talked to someone else the way you talk to yourself, how would they respond?

The thoughts you are aware of and your actions are part of your consciousness. You can change those behaviors starting now. But before we start to focus on the steps of changing your body blueprint to build the kind of relationships you want in your life, let’s acknowledge how some of these habits got there in the first place. Why is it this way? Where did these patterns of thought come from?

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To order the book or get your free copy of the 4 Week Fit 2 Love Plan, please visit www.fit2love.info

If you ‘d like to listen to a 60 minute call about Your Body Blueprint, you can download the MP3 for free by clicking here.

To listen to the call online, click here.

William Shakespeare, Henry V.

In our pursuit to “acquire” and create an abundant life, I all too often see more people neglect the foundation of life- health.

In fact, here is a picture that was floating around on Facebook that quotes the Dalai Lama:

In the effort to “attract” ALL that we want, while living in the moment, we can look at the principles of attracting greater abundance, as taught by Chellie Campbell author of The Wealthy Spirit. These same principles can easily be applied to our lives to improve the state of health, fitness and vitality.

When someone feels good, they have more energy.  People with better energy attract more positive energy into their life. Regardless what level your financial goals are, they are most likely higher or a step or two above where you are now, yes?  Wouldn’t it make sense then that you have to be able to handle the next level physically, emotionally, and spiritually?  Without growing yourself as a person to a higher level, how can we expect to receive at a higher level?

In exercise, it’s called adaptation.  Our bodies respond to the stimulus we provide and we adapt to be able to handle it more easily.  If you want to get stronger, (or faster, leaner, etc) you must add more resistance or intensity to create a new level for your body to adapt to.

Let’s look at Chellie’s 6 Keys from The Wealthy Spirit:

1. Think Positive
2. Send Out Ships
3. Count Your Money
4. Swim with Dolphins
5. Survive the Storms
6. Seek Balance and Enlightenment

Now let’s look at how we can apply these principles to our bodies at the same time for more results, greater energy and vitality.

1. Think Positive- on my 6 Week Beach Body Program, our first class is about Thinking Thin. If you think you are unhealthy, over weight, and sick, you keep attracting more of those things and your behavior does not change.  “Thin and healthy” people actually view things differently. They can go to a restaurant and order a salad and really enjoy and feel satisfied. Thinking thin means you reach for water over diet soda because you want to replenish and nourish your cells so they can do their job.  There is a different mindset to being “naturally” healthy and fit and practicing this way of thinking will affect your behavior and therefore your results.  Click here to learn more about the 6 Week Beach Body Program.

1. Send Out Ships: In marketing, this is taking action steps so that the more ships you send out, the more likely some will return with riches and spices for you. Send out ships for your body by using some of your 300+ muscles and 200+ bones everyday. You were born to move, not sit.  Wake up your body everyday by doing something that is physical- even if it’s only 10-15 minutes.  Walk the dog, clean the house, garden, take a class, dance around, climb the stairs a few times, etc.  If you don’t move your body, it will not respond the way you’d like it to later. (or maybe even now!)

1. Count Your Money: Count (or at least pay attention) to your calories! Calorie counting is not the only (or even best) way to pay attention to your food but it is one that gets results and creates awareness.  You wouldn’t stand at the gas station and try to put more gas in your car then it needed, would you?  It would flow out of the tank to let you know that it’s full and can not handle any more.  Well your body “overflows” a little differently but it can still tell you when you have consumed over what you need to function.  Knowing your body fat percentage and calculating how many calories you need to be healthy everyday gives you a BUDGET. Your body budget is really no different than your financial budget.

1. Swim with Dolphins: If you hang out with healthy, happy people, this will rub off on you. If you hang out with people who overeat, over drink and never exercise, THIS will also rub off on you. Your energy will adapt to the dominant energy around you.  Pick and choose who you spend your time with wisely. I have heard it said that you are the composite of the 5 people you hang out with most on every level: health, wealth and relationships.

1. Survive the Storms: Follow the 80/20 rule.  Health is a habit, not an event.  What you practice most of the time will become your new normal. Life happens and can change your plan, but learning how to adapt and keep going is the key to success in every area of life.

1. Seek Balance and Enlightenment: We are human BE-ings, not human DO-ings. Take time every week (if not everyday) to STOP and BE.  Meditate, play, and rest.  The more centered, clear, and positive you are, the more easily you can achieve any goal.

For some free tools to help you get started on a physical, emotional and spiritual journey, please visit www.fit2love.info and www.invisiblefitness.com

JJ Flizanes is the author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and Knack Absolute Abs: Routines for a Fit and Firm Core.  She was named best personal trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine and is the Director of Invisible Fitness. JJ’s passion is helping men and women get results with their body and love on the outside as well as the inside. View JJ on video on YouTube or visit her blog at http://www.jjflizanes.com.

I started training her about a year ago, right before her 90th birthday.  I was amazed at her then and even more so now.

After being totally inspired, I asked if I could film her so I could share her story and energy with my clients and friends. The few questions I asked back then were answered brilliantly, but after knowing and training her for a year, I have discovered a few pieces to Dorothy’s success that I want to share.

But first, watch the video below from last year of Dorothy if you have not seen it to witness her energy.  A still picture does not do her justice.  This woman is a 30 year old inside a body that chronologically is 91, but operates more like 50.

Does she really kickbox?  Yes, but that was a harder picture to get since I have to hold the kick pad at the same time!

She has often completed 3 sets of 25-30 pushups at an angle or on her knees, she has been recently doing jumping jacks (because I felt that it was important for her to feel confident in her ability to leave the floor and work on balance and recovery) and she has been perfecting her front and side kicks.

Why is Dorothy so amazing at 91 years old? Here is what I think:

1. She works full time and she loves what she does. She has a passion. Most people I see doing well as they age LIVE their passion.

2. She keeps active- she obviously is exercising but the fact that she is still working full time means she is up and around more often then not.

3. She is still learning- Dorothy is learning and playing bridge and taking Spanish lessons to keep her brain active. The term “Grumpy old men” is easy to see why it applies when the majority of aging people stop wanting to learn and grow. Even at 91, she still looks for things to learn. She doesn’t believe or act as if she knows best even though she has lived closer to 100 years than anyone I know!

4.Her spiritual beliefs are very strong and she practices living from a broader perspective. She has had a hard life and could very easily complain and hold onto anger and resentment. But she has worked to release the “dark” energy from her past and live in love and freedom. This is the biggest key in my opinion.

From my spiritual perspective, she does not have a lot of resistance. By resistance, I mean she does not say NO to many things or hold onto FEAR about the future. I see this as the biggest lesson I can learn from Dorothy on how to age with grace and happiness instead of fear, disappointment, and negativity.

5. She is grateful- every time I see her, she has a smile on her face and has something to be grateful for. This energy can not help but attract health and vitality!

Maybe one day, I can get her to appear and speak to a group of my clients and friends. I would love to tour her around and help inspire everyone to age with happiness and vitality. YOU have a choice.

Every choice you make today effects your future-it’s never to late to choose a better path for your mind, body and spirit that help you age with grace and joy.

I introduced her to my Mother and Grandmother in law to inspire us all to be thriving at 90! I want those I love to be around as long as possible in a healthy way!

Want to age like Dorothy? I may be able to help. Let me know 800 571 5722

What you will experience:

• Weight loss
• Emotional support
• A sense of empowerment
• Excitement about your results
• Proud of your commitment to your health!

The program will start Monday June 20th for call #1 where will we cover diet, detoxing and food elimination for 4 weeks.

Call #2 will be  Monday June 27th and will cover exercise: what to do, when to do, what will work the fastest for you, etc

Call #3 will be TUESDAY July 5th (same time) and will address the mental game that you need to be playing to have success in 4 weeks but to continue your success.  This will be about changing your habits!

Call #4 will be July 11th where you get to celebrate your success and make a plan for the rest of the summer!

What you get:

1. The downloadable 6 Week Beach Body Program- Value $97
2. 4, 1 hour calls to get coaching, guidance and support for this 4 week journey  Value $197
3. Access to the 6 Week Beach Body Forum for questions, community and support in between calls Value $97
4. A 30 min phone consult with JJ if you are one of the first 10 people to sign up Value $150

Total Value $541.00

Your Price til June 16th= $127.00

Click here to sign up today and have a thinner, leaner, more vibrant body by July 11th!!

I wanted to share with you WHY and HOW you can lose weight by changing the way you THINK.

For some of you , the idea of hypnosis is being told to act like a chicken.  Wrong.

This article was written by Susan French, C.Ht.

Hypnosis is a powerful tool but exactly HOW does it work? The real magic is that hypnosis works as both a “magic wand” and as a “snowball gathering snow.”

Let’s take a look at each separately and then how they work together.

The magic-wand effect is when you have a hypnosis session and your issue is solved instantly and without further effort. Magic!

The snowball effect is what you experience with several hypnosis sessions, in which each session reinforces and enhances the relief created by previous sessions.

The reality is that both effects create permanent change. Hypnosis creates the initial change. Reinforcement ensures that the change lasts.

Reinforcement occurs when you regularly use a reinforcement CD made by your hypnotherapist, induce self-hypnosis, or through continued subsequent sessions with your hypnotherapist. Your hypnotherapist guides you in creating the initial change and reinforcing it, thereby accomplishing your goal of permanent, positive change.

Now, let’s look at it a little more closely.

We use hypnosis to change responses and behaviors. All responses and behaviors are learned. All that hypnosis really does is cause very rapid learning (or relearning) to take place so that new responses and behaviors become automatic.

Hypnosis allows this rapid learning to occur by interrupting the conscious, critical factor of the mind/brain. For reasons of survival, the critical factor of the mind/brain slows down the learning process. However, when those initial survival reasons are no longer necessary, it makes sense to interrupt or bypass the critical factor, which is precisely what hypnosis does – painlessly, safely, and effectively.

We know that no learning is INSTANT. You didn’t learn to ride a bike instantly. You didn’t learn to speak instantly. You didn’t learn to read or write instantly. You were taught the initial ideas and methods and those ideas were repeatedly reinforced until they become automatic.

Hypnosis allows that learning or relearning to happen more rapidly. However, as with any learning process, it needs to be reinforced. Thus, hypnosis is both a “magic wand” and a “snowball gathering snow.”

Let’s take a look at Joanna’s experience to get a better idea of exactly how hypnosis DOES work:

Joanna was sitting in the waiting room at the Hypnosis Motivation Institute. She was waiting for her first hypnotherapy appointment. She was desperate to lose weight. She had lost and gained at least three hundred pounds in her thirty-two years. Now, here she was, seventy pounds overweight again. She had tried everything.

She had heard some say that hypnosis could be like a magic wand. She had heard others say it didn’t work at all. Her best friend Martha had just lost fifty-five pounds using hypnosis. She said it was easy and it worked, but that Joanna would have to do her part too. Would it work for her?

If this reminds you of your own questions about weight loss and hypnosis, keep reading.

We can call the habit of overeating a food addiction, compulsive overeating, or a self-destructive habit. Whatever we call it, though, once that kind of behavior takes control, you will need to unlearn old, destructive behaviors and relearn new, constructive ones.

Joanna followed through with her hypnosis for weight loss. She learned the reasons she ate for comfort and she altered those behaviors. She learned that eating good, fueling foods were essential, and she incorporated those ideas into her daily life. She also learned that she needed to move her body more. Exercise became her oasis. It became her “me-time” every day.

Joanna lost her seventy pounds easily and happily and has maintained her new weight because she created a new relationship with food, with her body, and with life itself. That was five years ago.

Hypnosis makes the process of transforming counterproductive behaviors to productive behaviors easy, effective, and empowering. Any behavior that does not serve your goals and dreams can be changed using hypnosis.

Hypnosis accelerates your learning process so that what might have taken you twenty years to “learn” can be restructured in four to six sessions.

Hypnosis is being used in major medical institutions, such as, Harvard Medical School, UCLA, Stanford, Kaiser Permanente, Beth Israel Deaconness Hospital, and many burn centers, to ease pain, fear, and treatment [, and accelerate healing] for their patients.

Hypnosis is approved by, both, the American Medical Association (AMA) and the National Institute of Health (NIH) for Complementary and Alternative Medical Treatment and as an adjunct to traditional treatments.

The moral of this story is this: if you are wondering if hypnosis is a magic wand or a cumulative change response (snowball effect), it is both!

If all else has failed and you are ready and committed to achieving your goals, it is time to try hypnosis. It works!

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That’s why we use it as the foundation for changing your MIND on the 6 Week Beach Body Program.  We want you to have long lasting change, not temporary results!

Here are a few testimonials!

I had an amazing weekend running my first every Fit 2 Love 2 Day Workshop. I learned so much about what I want to deliver to women (and men) and how I can help them change their bodies and relationships.  Here is some of the feedback I got after the event:

JJ makes fitness easy and fun. She is very empathetic and can related to every person’s experience and background. I am excited about her boot-camp and 6 week body beach program. It’s such an amazing value, for little cost. JJ is very generous and makes irresistible offers to help you out with your health and wellness plan. Thanks to her hot “Fit 2 Love” weekend, I have a whole new appreciation for food. JJ’s is the best! Thank you. ~Elena Pezzini, M.S., C.P.C., You Have Got The Power, Inc.

Whether it’s weight loss, self love or finding the love of your life, J.J. can give you the tools that you need to meet your goals.  She is there to help along the way because she wants you to succeed!  With J.J.’s enthusiasm, she will motivate you to want to eat healthy, to want to exercise, and to be a better person.  After attending J.J.’s two day “Fit 2 Love” Workshop, I shopped for new groceries today and even found myself exercising while I was pumping gas at the gas station!  Her knowledge of the body’s structure helps you exercise in a different way and makes you feel the exercises working in a way that you’ve never felt before. ~ Casey Golovko

Thank you for such an inspiring weekend!  You treated us with such great care & your attention to detail with so many personal touches was lovely & much appreciated.  My family & co-workers could feel the excitement in me as I described the one of a kind experience.  You made a bunch of strangers so comfortable & free to be honest in the safe environment you created, that I wouldn’t be surprised if some become good friends.  What an engaging personality you have as you helped each one of us break through personal barriers toward our health goals.   Your listening skills, understanding & knowledge of human nature are such rare qualities.  You helped us all be honest with ourselves as you nourished us body/mind & spirit & we cannot be the same afterwards.  I left the workshop feeling very energized & took an exhilarating, windy 2 mile walk on the beautiful Esplande, up & down the Avenue C steps a few times… one of my favorite jaunts, but it felt different this time… reminded me of pulling up a deep root & tossing it away (love that analogy).    No one has really been able to pull me out of my comfort zone enough to make some shift in my thinking toward the positive like you affected for me this weekend & I thank you very much!  Thank you for sharing your expertise & experiences in such a profound way. Looking forward to the teleclass. ~Donna Shellabarger

Thank you so much for such a great weekend! You did a super job! I am a little sore already. But, it’s kind of wonderful. I guess I had forgotten about this wonderful body. It is already responding to my actions! ~Debra Kisling

Thanks again JJ.  I really really enjoyed the workshop.  What a great group of women and such sacred space you created.  It was tranformational.  I am so blessed to have been a part of it. I appreciate and admire your compassion .  I leave with the empowerment of a new story, the motivaton and desire to move and exercise my body more.  I have more insights and awareness in several areas of life. I gained more confidence in myself and became more aware of my worthiness.  I loved all the knowledge and insights shared especially about detox and food substitutions- thank you!       ~Kelli Demski

This was so different.  JJ is so caring and sharing- I feel her energy can continue with me as it spurs the energy within me for a new way of life. ~Pauline Adams

JJ is a great group leader- she is realistic, compassionate, extremely knowledgeable, and inspiring. Her training style is so easy to follow. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us to help us grow!  ~Janet Finden

I am walking out of this workshop feeling better about myself and my future. I will be workout out more and eating healthier. I feel more confident about my body and feel better mentally as well.   ~Elise Berberian

JJ is awesome! I ‘m so glad I met you. I like how real you are, how spiritual you are and openly tie that into your work. I was worried this might be too “Hollywood”, “Beach girl” stuff, but there was so much depth. I love JJ’s energy, anything you do would be fantastic.  I liked the 2 day workshop very much! ~Fiona Rhea

But the most important lesson I learned, or should I say PROVED to myself, was that I am doing something right and Fit 2 Love is truth.  I don’t like to say I am “lucky” because I do not think LUCK has anything to do with it. So instead of saying luck, I will tell you that I deliberately created the space, the body, the mindset and life to welcome in my wonderful husband.  His energy over the last few days before, during, and after my event was living proof that what I am trying to teach others works.

My husband has been supremely supportive , awesome, amazing, thoughtful, and generous in helping me to prepare and then decompress from my weekend workshop.  Some of the women in my workshop were single and looking for a man.  Some of them are in relationships and want to rekindle the spark.  I know how to do both-because what you have is a reflection of how you treat and feel about yourself.

What we do in Fit 2 Love has to do with being aware of our body blueprint and how to change it.  Women (and men) learn how to attract love into their life by how they love and care for THEMSELVES.

The only person you can control is YOU.

If you want to know how you are doing with it in your life- take a look.

We are starting our Fit 2 Love Virtual Bootcamp in a few days.  I invite you to join us so you can start to create the space, the body, mindset and energy to attract more love into your life NOW.

Visit http://www.fit2love.info/bootcamp or call 800 571 5722

I am presenting a free 90 minute workshop based on my Amazon best-selling book, Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life.

This is a limited seating event-you must RSVP to attend.

Does your lack of self esteem stop you from dating or taking better care of your body and health?

My exercise point of view is that you must learn to love, cherish, and accept yourself before you can create authentic love with another person and your self-care routine can be a major reflection of your own self love.

After attending the class, you will feel empowered and in control of what to do to get results with your body.  The disappointment and frustration will be replaced with excitement and motivation! You will want to exercise!  And you will know exactly how you can start adding it in easily within your current lifestyle.

If you are single, you will be excited about all the tools you can implement right away to attract your ideal mate while you are sculpting your body.  If you are married, you will feel excited about the passion and intimacy you can rekindle with a few simple steps.

It’s a win-win for everyone.  I hope you can make it!  Here are the details below:

Fit 2 Love

How to Get Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually Fit to Attract More Love and Get Results!

What You Can Expect to Learn:

§  How you may be sabotaging your weight loss success

§  5 simple steps to successfully achieving results with your body while improving your relationships

§  Why and how you must clean the slate in order to change your results if you want them to last

§  What foods can enhance sexual pleasure and desire while trimming your waistline!

§   Why your exercise has not been successful thus far

§  How to change your relationship with food so you never diet again

Seminar Presenter: JJ Flizanes, Director of Invisible Fitness and Amazon Best Selling Author of Fit 2 Love

Register or more info: 800 571 5722

“Working with JJ over the last year has been, without a doubt, the best thing I have ever done for myself. It has changed my life. For the first time in years, I have lost over 30 pounds without being on a diet. I even met the love of my life and got engaged in the last 8 months. Life is very good thanks to you.”

Jody Lay, Orange CA

Date: Saturday, April 2^nd or April 30^th
Time: 10:30am to Noon
Location: Remedy Pharm – 23811 Hawthorne Blvd Torrance, CA 90505

Fee: Free!

LIMITED SEATING!                     RSVP ASAP!                        CALL:  800 571 5722

email info@invisiblefitness.com to RSVP as well

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What others are saying about the 90 minute class:

“After attending JJ’s Fit 2 Love workshop, I was inspired and motivated to make the much needed changes in my life to improve my mental, physical and spiritual well-being. JJ’s enthusiasm and love for life is contagious! I am excited to implement JJ’s 5 steps into my life and look forward to seeing the positive changes unfold in the relationships with my family and friends.” Brady Prutch

“I loved attending your recent Fit 2 Love workshop.  I love how you energize a room and make the overwhelming seem simple.  Touching on the Fit 2 Love 5 Steps was a really great reminder of how we can make simple changes that will really add up to making a difference in our lives.  These topics were exactly what I needed to hear.  I felt very uplifted and inspired when I left to better loving myself into becoming Fit 2 Love.  I appreciate your great work. Thank you!” Kelli Demski

“I recently attended JJ’s workshop on Fit 2 Love and found her approach to fitness a refreshing break from typical fitness training. I find the program to be comprehensive; taking into account the mind, body, and spiritual aspect of who we are in relationship to ourselves, with an emphasis on the development of authentic action.   I am very excited to begin this new approach into my own wellness with JJ’s support and guidance.” Michelle Mello

“JJ, It was a pleasure to be in your class on Saturday. I feel your insight into making decisions to improve across all the areas of your life, not the fitness area. Fitness involves taking care of yourself and doing it in a way you can gradually improve and not become discouraged. Fitness is not instant, and so often we want instant results,  You need to decide and take action to get to a desired result. I am enjoying your book as well- thank you!“  Dr. Richard Steiner

If money was not the issue, would you take 2 days to go inside and make some shifts in your relationship with your body and love life? Have you been single too long, not able to find the right man?

Are you unhappy in your relationship and can’t seem to make it better? Do you yo-yo diet and sporadically exercise wishing it would just be easier?

Are you letting your body not being perfect stop you from dating or embracing the love that already exists around you?

When I was writing Fit 2 Love, married friends and colleagues of mine begged me to write the book for them. They wanted solutions on how to improve their relationships and lose weight at the same time.

However, I focused first on the single man or woman who wants to lose weight, feel better about their body and is searching for the love of their life because I have been there and I know that. But what I also know is that these principles can make ANY relationship better once you apply them-single or married. They have worked in my relationship as well as many others who have already applied them.

I have created the space for only 5 very lucky people to receive a scholarship to the Fit 2 Love Workshop which is selling for $397 but valued over $1000.  You may know someone who is unhappy with their body and wishing they could find love- I would encourage you to pass this onto them.  This weekend could change their life forever.

***DEADLINE FOR APPLICATIONS IS APRIL 20th*****

Click here to download the application and instructions

Are there better exercises for each of us to be doing?  Yes.

Are there more effective ways to change your body fat than some of the methods you are currently using?   Yes.

But the bottom line for a lot of us, is DOING IT and DOING IT CONSISTENTLY.

How do you do that?

Usually the most effective way to get it done is to pay for it.  Hire a trainer or a coach or join a group class.  I understand not all of us can do that however, but it really is the best choice to get moving and have some positive results.

The second is to SCHEDULE it.

Sounds simple, yes?  But even I have had an issue with this in the last 10 months.  I lost my workout partner last year ( she moved) and since then it has been hard to find someone else with a similar schedule, desire and fitness level to replace her.

Having a workout partner is great to keep you on track for just DOING the exercise.  Schedule it in your day, put it in your calendar, let others know you are UNAVAILABLE and then commit to it.

I really get bothered when fitness people want to tell the couch potato who hasn’t committed to ANY movement in months or even years, to go do HIGH INTENSITY INTERVAL TRAINING!!

Ah, Hello????

That MIGHT last a few weeks ( most likely not–unless they paid for it) and then that person reverts back to their old habits because they stepped TOO FAR out of their comfort zone too soon.

My best fitness advice is to DO something and DO IT OFTEN.  Once fitness becomes part of your regular life 2-5 times a week and you sustain it for longer than 3 months, THEN we can modify WHAT you are doing and stop wasting time throwing out options of things you are most likely NOT going to do for long.

Take out your pen and calendar, get ready to email a few friends and SCHEDULE yourself a workout date.  Have some fun why don’t you? 

I am not the fitness guru who has battled being overweight and has successfully lost and kept off over 50 pounds or more.  That’s not me. I have always been average size in all areas and have seen a few more pounds in my earlier years but only about 10 more than I think I am currently.

What is MY story?

I pulled out my laptop and started to write.  I didn’t have an agenda, just see what happens.  Inspired to write something very personal, I put the computer down and meditated on it.

Nothing was really coming to me.

On the phone with my new brand manager, he asked me “can you write something about fitness and love?”  YES!!!!

In fact, that IS my story.

I learned the science and “how to” of fitness years ago.  I keep learning about food and biochemistry.  But the BIG question that is always in the front of my mind is “ BUT ARE YOU HAPPY?”

Why do you (or I) feel the need to look amazing?  Is it for YOU or someone else?

I am sure I am not alone by admitting to know someone with a killer body who is not so happy or grounded in who they are.  At the end of the day, why do you do it?  And why do you NOT do it?

I have followed a belief system that I learned and cultivated years ago that says that everything you do is a reflection of who you are, what you think and how you feel.  And others respond to that in the way you have put it together.

Fitness to me is a way to engage in loving yourself and your body.  Many people use fitness to punish themselves or to perform a transformation IN ORDER to try to love themselves but this approach will NEVER work.

The only way to make it last and to become a priority in your life is to START with loving yourself and giving your body what it needs to stay strong, healthy and fit.  Love is the starting point-not the end point.

If you want some help, Fit 2 Love can do it.  Buy the book here on Feb 9th and look for our exclusive invites to a live event in March.